Went to a wedding yesterday. I'm not much of a wedding person. I'm a cynic, I'm a feminist, and I'm pretty goddamn unholy to boot. In my opinion, there's not much to celebrate about an adult woman confidently declaring to be "obedient" and to "submit" herself to her groom as "head of household." Fuck man, I don't know about you, but the only thing I'm going to submit myself to is that piece of chocolate cake in the fridge. And, I'm a little iffy on the whole marriage thing, anyway. A thousand dollar diamond may make me a happy lady, but throwing one on isn't going to magically shield me from the temptations of infidelity if I'm already a piece of shit to begin with. So, I guess marriage is fine for other people, if that's what makes them happy. But I, for one, can be committed and loving and "faithful" without the fancy ceremony and expensive symbolism.
So, anyway, this is the fabulous outfit I wore to go eat a continental breakfast of sausage patties and biscuits in the hotel lobby. The shirt is new and I absolutely love it. You'd love it too, if you could actually see it properly. Oops. Oh well, I'm sure I'll be wearing it again soon...
In other news, I got my hair did on Saturday and it looks the same as before. Granted, I basically asked for the same thing as before, but there's nothing worse than spending $$$ at the salon to come out looking the same as you did when you went in. I just can't decide if I want to chop it off or grow it out...
And in other other news, it needs to be spring. Now.
How was your weekend?
Top: UO
Earrings: Anthropologie
Jeans: Express
Booties: Seychelles
I don't know about you, but the only thing I'm going to submit myself to is that piece of chocolate cake in the fridge.
ReplyDeleteL-O-FREAKING-L. That made my day. Personally, I don't have any problems with marriage. I don't see it as submission to the male. Still, I don't care for diamonds or anything that's expensive, and I want to get married cheaply and have McDonalds served to the guests. Really. I'm that cheap. I mean, a wedding is just a symbolic manifestation of all the dedication/devotion a couple is supposed to already have for one another, and that it'll now be recognized legally and whatnot. Ok, scratch that. That made no effing sense. I really ought to drink something caffeinated before commenting in stuff. Bleh.
Oh, and I'll answer your email soon. I'm terrible.
LOVE THAT BLOUSE. and you.
ReplyDeleteaaaaaand I just sent you a facebook message.
Charlotte x
You know I love anything striped so your top is an instant winner with me
ReplyDeleteOooh I love those boots!! :D
ReplyDeleteAs for marriage, it doesn't really bug me all that much, I probably won't get married (but that's just because I won't be able to find myself a man ;) ) Otherwise I would get married
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loving your earrings!
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Love your blouse!!
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Kat
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That top is really gorgeous, I love the stripes so much, and your earrings are lovely!!
ReplyDeleteI am pretty ambivalent about the whole marriage thing too. It's outdated, and the idea of submitting to anyone or anything seems retarded to me.
xJennaD
Haha. Well, at least when you go to a wedding you will get the cake. Hopefully it will be chocolate (but not likely. people rarely have good wedding cake, which seems weird, since you get to try before you buy).
ReplyDeleteAnyway, I love those boots.
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All I can really say is:
ReplyDelete1.) you look lovely as always
2.) the idea of submitting to the love and care of my husband who loves me so much more than himself is something that, sadly, perhaps few young women can grasp these days
3.) I'm a little shocked that people like JennaStevie (above) are so progressive as to be appalled at submission, but not care in the least to still use the word retarded.
That is quite a little rant on marriage haha - and I definitely agree with some of your points. But I am also a married lady - so apparently I'm not completely opposed to the expensive symbolism :) Anyway, LOVE that striped blouse.
ReplyDeleteAnnie
The Other Side of Gray
Marriage doesn't bother me at all and I expect to get married down the road. The whole ceremony depends On the couple, and most of the weddings I've been to the couple has rchanged the vows or written their own. I don't see marriage as a negative thing, though you do raise some good points!
ReplyDeleteLove that striped top.
Great shirt. Pretty booties.
ReplyDeleteI'm 100% with you on marriage -- which made part of my life difficult a decade ago.
On another subject... you noted your confusion (and relief) at one of my subject-titles recently (and, in retrospect, I realize you were right) but here you did the same to me! I thought you met a tall, handsome European last night, shared a bottle of fine wine, whispered flirty things in each others ears and ended up walking home in the same clothes. Oh well...
I love your blouse and your comment about the cake was hilarious! I am a married lady, but I respect your opinion and still love you and your blog. :) And yes - spring soon. Like for real. None of this snowstorm bs that they are talking about for this week. Ugg.
ReplyDeleteahhh weddings. I cry when I go to them, but I'm not particularly sure why. It must be because I know that marriage is a bitch and I feel sorry (and happy-- because I'm sadistic like that) for the new couple.
ReplyDeleteI think the idea of marriage is changing.. it's very different for my and my fwends, at least I think it is, in comparison to the "norm." At the mo, I live really close to the Bible belt where people always frown at my dislike of children, dislike to challenge my husband's opinions, and dislike of other people. (what can I say? I'm perfect) and they see my not having children or being a housewife as something threatening their traditional way of life. Hey- it's my marriage, I get to define it, yeah?
That said, those boots are killer.
♥ laura
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I'm going to go to UO today and find that shirt and I'm going to buy the shit out of it!
ReplyDeleteMarriage isn't for everyone. I thought after my first marriage (I know, right?) that I'd NEVER marry again. I thought it was dumb and then I met Ian. He said he wanted to marry me so I said ok. haha. Really stuck to my guns huh? But really, I would be with him with or without the contract. He's just that great. But I hear you and respect your view on the whole thing.
OH, and I love you heaps and can't WAIT to meet you. Soon!!!
xo,
Tracy
your boots look so classy & unique, pretty lipstick also :)
ReplyDeletei totally agree. i was even thinking of getting married with my boyfriend on my next vacation to Vegas.. what do you think? not expensive, fun, true.
keep beautiful,
teresa
www.trend-ish.com
I used to feel the same as you regarding marriage but then you meet the right person and everything changes. That being said, the traditional vows are just nonsense. I couldnt bring myself to say those words (I mean obey?..yea right) so we wrote our own.
ReplyDeleteI LOVE YOU EVEN MORE NOW.
ReplyDeleteWhile I cannot wait to marry Mr. A, I will not agree to "submit" myself to him since he will the "head of household." That is bull. Like you, I'm a feminist. Eff that submission crap. I will do what I want. Also, I refuse to spend thousands of dollars on one day. I would rather have that money to, you know, live off of in the future. kthx.
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I hate it when you get your hair done and come out looking the same...so infuriating!!
ReplyDeleteWhen I got married, we wrote our vows...I was not going to get up there and say I was going to "obey" anyone.
Love those booties!
Nice detail on your booties! And I'm a big fan of stripes so you had me right from the beginning. Marriage...Personally, I view marriage as a partnership. No wife should ever have to 'submit' to their husband. And a wedding should be about celebrating love, plain and simple, and not so much about how many carats are in a wedding ring or where someone got their cake from. Piddly details.
ReplyDeletethose boots are killer!!
ReplyDeleteWow I love your new layout and those boots are AMAZING!! xx
ReplyDeleteI agree, I want spring! You and I should protest. I'll make the signs! That shirt of yours DOES look gorgeous. Hmmm... I can see what you mean about the whole wedding issue. I really do want to get married someday though, and not just as an excuse to buy an Alexander McQueen gown. (I'll probably never be able to afford one, so let's hope my groom is rich!) I think I'd like to change the vows though. None of that obedience stuff. I'll write my own! I mean, submission might be fun in the bedroom and everything, but not in, say, the kitchen. I'm saying too much.
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Emily
ok are you finished now, I just stopped by to say how pretty your blouse is and how amazing your photos are....tip toeing out of the room backwards now. I am married, I am crazy, so is he. It works. He is the only one I wanted to marry, I was 38 at the time, I sowed the oats and lived my life. You still have to do the same, darling. Dawn Suitcase Vignettes xo
ReplyDeleteI'm in love with your booties!
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