
Happy Love Your Body Day, everyone! It's finally here and it's time to celebrate! If you've written a post about loving on your bod, please link up below! I want to let each and every post do the talking this year, so I'm not going to write a long entry, but I do want to post a few little tidbits that will hopefully inspire you to love your body and all the things it can do. So, without further ado, let's roll!
- Don't let anyone stand in the way of you loving your body. Although it's hard, don't let anyone have that power over you. Focus on you and you alone. It's easy to compare ourselves and our bodies to other people ("Look at her thighs! Mine are like, twice the size of hers!"). But that's a recipe for disaster. I'm a positive person, but I realize that, no matter what I do, there's always going to be someone who has better looking legs than I do. And that's okay. As long as my legs are looking their best, I'm happy.
- Stop talking smack. Fact: we live in a sexualized world. Comments like, "Oh yeah, bra, I'd totally hit that shit!" are common. So are things like, "That bitch is ugly. I wouldn't fuck that with a ten foot pole." Insulting or degrading other people reflects poorly on you. And it's a clear sign that you aren't comfortable in your own body, either. Try substituting the word "heavy" for "fat" for a week and you'll be amazed the effects it will have.
- Stop talking smack about yourself, too. I talk about my body and weight quite frequently, but I do it in a positive way. Calling yourself a lard ass or fatty does what for you exactly? Nothing, except make you feel bad. When discussing your body, try to speak matter-o-factly. "I'm trying to eat healthier today because my tummy's looking rounder," doesn't have the negative connotation that, "Holy shit, so, I really need to stop pigging out. I'm getting sooooo fat!" does.
- Don't change your body for someone else. When I was 16, I was into this guy. He told me he'd never dated anyone over a size six and had no intentions to. I was a size 10 at the time. It came down to me (dangerously) losing over 15lbs in three weeks, weighing in at 115 lbs. Guess what? He and I didn't work out, and I gained it all back and then some. If someone can't accept you for who you are TODAY, they sure as hell don't deserve you tomorrow (or the day after that).
- Strive to be the best that you can be. Being healthy makes you feel good, physically and mentally. I've learned that, while I'm content at a size 6, I feel better about myself and have more energy when I'm focusing on what I'm putting into my body so I can fit into my size 2 jeans. The key is to not be excessive: as long as I know I tried my best, I'm not going to beat myself up in the morning when I see I magically gained 3 lbs overnight.
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I just linked to your blog post from mine - let's all celebrate love your body day together! It's a happy day :)
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-Alyssa
Just posted. Hope you are all having a great day xxx
ReplyDeleteThank you for doing this. It really felt good to say that I love my body. I appreciate you so much. Oh, and I also love YOUR body. Is that so wrong?
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Tracy
This was a great idea, I love it! Just posted my link. :)
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Yay to you for being proactive and organising this! I have really enjoyed reading everyone's posts (and was even inspired to write one) x
ReplyDeleteThis was a great idea. I linked up :)
ReplyDeleteWonderful post Ashley! I linked mine up :) But the first one didn't work...my dumb computer copied the link wrong XD so I had to redo it...hopefully you can delete the other one -_-
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ReplyDeleteGreat Post! Very inspirational! I'm so happy you included all of us in 'Love your Body Day'!
ReplyDeleteI post my link :)
-Kyla XO
Valuable post. With your trademark humor.
ReplyDeleteActually, I'm feeling very sentimental at this because it was exactly a year ago, on this topic, that you featured me on your blog in a way that touched me heart. I'll never forget that kindness. *Big Hug*
Just linked up. Thanks for reminding us all that we are beautiful in our own way!
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ReplyDeleteLove this!
I posted here:
http://mom2memphisandruby.blogspot.com/2011/10/my-body.html
Great post!! Thanks for hosting this link up!!
ReplyDeleteSo so happy you did this linkup. You are amazing :)
ReplyDeleteAlso I loved what you wrote about using heavy instead of fat... I'm going to give that shot :)
AWESOME posts, everyone! So, SO inspiring. I totally burned my eggs this a.m. reading through them when I should have been tending the stove. Oops. It was well worth it, though.
ReplyDeleteMegan: I deleted the first one! No worries!
Lena: Awesome!! I added your link to the rest of the links. :)
Tammy: YES, you should try it! I've been doing it for a while now and it's a lot less hateful sounding.
Beautiful post Ashley- I love the idea of speaking our bodies in a matter of fact way- it's more realistic and removes impossible pressures. I find it hard not to compare myself to others but it's getting easier as I become more comfortable in my own skin- I just linked up :)
ReplyDeleteSo glad that since I posted (way too early) this morning there are 13 more names on the list! @Ashley, I was hiding under a counter pretending to be in that scene where Alice grows to a large size by eating the sweets for halloween a couple years ago haha.
ReplyDeleteThis post is a great idea! I just found your blog, and I love what you're doing. Thanks for creating this link-up!
ReplyDelete~Colette
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This is a wonderful idea. I found out about today from Tinfoil Tiaras post. I read through all of the links so far and enjoyed everyone's individual love story.
ReplyDeleteI may write a post...we'll see.
This is such a great idea you come up this. I linked up.
ReplyDeletevery helpful and insightful tips. Once you accept your body life gets a lot easier.
ReplyDeleteYou rock Ashley. You just do!
ReplyDeletesorry i listed myself twice, the first time linked back to your blog lol
ReplyDeletethe second link is the correct one
thanks for hosting this, looks like a good turn out!
brett
HOLLLLAAAAA.
ReplyDeleteI am all for girl power. You heard my story about bitching out the news station yesterday for promoting a negative body image to women. I was pissed. Forrrrealsies. There is no reason for women to attack each other over physical appearance, which we really cannot control. No reason at all. So this is super important.
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Just linked. This was tough for me, but I'm glad I did it.
ReplyDeleteLove love love love (ect.) This post really got me thinking, too. Thanks for the link up!
ReplyDeleteGreat post!! So inspiring! Just added my link xx
ReplyDeleteSuch a great idea and a great post! I think the hardest one for me is not talking smack about myself- such a tough one! But I'm working on it :)
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i completely agree with all the points you made!!
ReplyDeleteespecially talking trash about others and judging them. It's just immature and creates so much negative energy and hate!!
Great post - very inspirational. Loving everyone's story so far and can't wait to read more. Thanks for the links.
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Well said and so true - it is all about perspective! If we change our outlook slightly it really change the effect a situation has on us! Have a lovely weekend dear!
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Chic 'n Cheap Living
Great post and awesome idea! I had my post written and ready to go, but for some reason couldn't link up to your blog on Wednesday:-( I'm still fairly ignorant when it comes to this blogging thing. I still figured better late than never, so linked up today.
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what a great post with some awesome reminders!!
ReplyDeleteI really enjoyed reading this. Because even though my friends, family and boyfriend love me exactly the way I am, I always have this niggly feeling in the back of my head telling me to loose weight, and that i wasn't pretty enough. This blog was a real success to read
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